“Grab some iced coffee, curl your hair, put some shades on, and get it girl”
So, it’s very clear that I am completely new to this whole “dating” thing. I mean I knew I would eventually begin dating, but I didn’t know when, so when I was asked out on a date for the first time in a while, I had no idea how to react! I sought out some advice, and my very best advice I received was to be Pretty, Happy, and Busy. You are probably thinking exactly what I was thinking when I was first presented with this advice.. umm what? I know exactly what they mean individually, but with dating? What? Let me break this down for you, and by the end of this article you will be able to take on any guy that comes your way.
You can do everything under the sun to make yourself pretty on the outside. You can change your hair color/style, you can get your nails done, get a tan, go on a crazy diet, but if you’re not pretty on the inside then that won’t land you your dream date. When I say pretty on the inside I mean show off that confidence. Start being completely true to yourself, and stop being so caught up on your flaws. Nobody can justify if you’re fat, skinny, fit, big, small, ugly, or pretty other than you. The more you shine on the inside the more beautiful you’ll be on the outside. Believe in yourself.
Alright ladies, listen up. Nobody wants to date negative Nancy. It’s not the sexiest thing in the world to sit around and complain about everything under the sun. Would you really want to date someone that mopes around all day? Probably not. Thoughts are a very powerful thing, and when you start speaking to yourself in a positive way the happier you’ll be! If your coffee spills all over that cute shirt you wanted to wear, don’t become bitter at the world, and rant about how everything happens to you. Clearly you just weren’t meant to wear that shirt that day! Smile more; you’re more beautiful that way.
You’re probably thinking Why would I look busy if I want him to ask me out?, but that’s the trick. It’s Friday night and let’s say that guy you can’t stop talking about finally asks you to go out on Saturday night. NO. Even if you don’t have plans, make something up. Don’t make it seem you’re that easy to have. You have to play a little hard to get. The only way this rule doesn’t apply is if you feel that this guy is someone you know you won’t have a lasting relationship with and it’s only for fun, but if this guy is someone you want to build a lasting bond with then make him work for you!
I am finding that dating is a giant roller coaster. One second you feel like there could possibly be potential and the next second the coaster is in a downward spiral. It is exciting and terrifying all at the same time, but don’t take this season in your life lightly. This is the time to really discover want in your future husband. Make a list of nonnegotiable and negotiable elements that you desire in your partner. My advice is to date whoever asks you out, because you never know the magical spark that could occur! Listen to your heart, and never lose sight of who you are. So, the next time a guy asks you out think pretty, happy, and busy!