Finding Yourself

“It takes courage to endure the sharp pains of self discovery rather than choose to take the dull pain of unconsciousness that would last the rest of our lives” -Marianne Williamson

Let me be honest for a hot second. Society sucks. It really does. Society has taught us to believe that we have to act and look a certain way to be accepted. “How to lose 10 pounds in a week” is plastered on every cover of every magazine. If you’re on your phone, which I imagine you are, leave this article and cruise through Instagram. You will see nothing less then gym pictures or the picture perfect love story of a happy couple. We assume that everyone is doing better than us, so we begin the process of self-loathing, which ultimately leads us to a destination of envy. It is unhealthy and we lose sight of focusing on becoming the best versions of ourselves for solely ourselves.

Take in this next phrase as real advice. It is okay to be yourself. I wrote it, you read it; so for your own sanity, believe it. It is perfectly normal to cry during sappy movies. It is okay to be shy, eccentric, happy, loud, stubborn, determined, and literally anything else you want to be. Stop wearing the mask, because what you’re doing is suppressing what you’re feeling and basically damaging your soul. Keep connected to your support system. The people who love and accept you for everything you are even at your absolute worst. Do not waste a second of your time with someone who wants to shift your being.

When I started my journey to self-discovery it took me a while to understand the fact that it is not a destination, but a journey. It is a scary and spectacular journey. It can be difficult to have to sift through each part of your mind and heart, but I did this by writing. Not only does this give you an excuse to go on a hunt for find a pretty new journal, but it gives you the opportunity to sit alone and express raw emotions. No boundaries and no rules. Write down your wants and needs. Write about the boy who broke your heart or the boy whose heart you broke. Write the positives and the negatives. JUST WRITE. You will cry and at times you will feel crazy, but you will begin to fall madly in love with yourself. Every single word that you wrote down is what makes you the amazing masterpiece that you are now. If you forgot to tell yourself today that you’re beautiful… You are so beautiful.

Go find yourself. Become complacent with every feeling and emotion that you have. Do not allow anyone to tell you that you are not good enough. You deserve the entire world and nothing less. Come to terms with the fact that in the end it is your opinion that matters most, and remember everything your life begins and ends with you. You can do this.