It doesn’t matter how old you are, or how long you’ve been together, breaks are tough to handle. If you loved the person and pictured standing at the altar with them, then breaking up can be extremely difficult to handle. This was the person you called on good/bad days. The person you would come home to, the person you would snuggle up and fall asleep with, the person that made you laugh, and smile. You were best friends and now you’re complete strangers. How does one recover? I will begin by telling you that it will hurt and it will hurt bad. There will be days you don’t know if you’ll be able to make it through, but taking the right precautions will ultimately lead you down the right path. Buckle up, because it’s a hell of a roller coaster.
Seriously, just cry. It is so completely normal and don’t allow anyone to tell you otherwise. Cry in the car, cry talking to your support system, cry in your bed, cry in the shower, cry it out. Even if you fight it, I can assure you that it will happen. Don’t be ashamed of it! It’s all-apart of the process.
Talk to the people who genuinely care about you. Not the random person that messages you and asks you what happened, because chances are they don’t care at all. They are just nosey. Your best friend, your parents, siblings, coworkers, whoever. Vent. Those are the people that are going to lift you up.
My favorite venting tool. Go get that pretty journal and write your heart out. No rules and no boundaries. Make a list of the pros and cons of the relationship. Did the bad outweigh the good? Make a list of what you want in a future partner. Did those prove that the last was not right? Write out how you’re feeling. Even if it is full of dark and deep emotions. Write it down, because overtime you will see the progression. You will look back and be so shocked on how far you’ve come without really even knowing it.
You don’t have to put the “tough girl” act on. You are allowed to admit that you loved him and that you miss him. You don’t just wake up one day and say “screw it,” because if it were that easy we would all be doing that. Sit in your own thoughts and feel every pain of it. This is what molds you into the better person you will become, and potentially a better partner in your next relationship. Do not fight it.
Take Care of Yourself
Go for a run, get your nails done, go get a tan, get a message, or go to a spa. Do what makes you happy. Spend time a cute little coffee shops, or get lost in a book at Barnes and Noble. Anything that can give you a mental break, do that. You won’t regret it.
Appreciate What You Do Have
Look around at the people you have. Look at the ones that are guiding you through this tough part of your life. Those are the ones you should be appreciating. Be thankful you have your health, because someone out there is wishing they had what you’re taking for granted.
Turn to God
Please, please, please. I cannot specify this enough. God will be the one to help you, but only if you let him. He will guide you to the places you’re meant to go. You have to trust what he is doing. You may think this break up is the worst thing that could ever happen to you, but it is not. God removed that person from your life for a reason, and in time He will show you the reason. God always has a bigger and better plan for you. You just have to be patient and trust your journey.